{"id":827,"date":"2024-07-01T11:11:42","date_gmt":"2024-07-01T11:11:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dialogaryconstruir.com\/?p=827"},"modified":"2024-09-10T15:27:24","modified_gmt":"2024-09-10T15:27:24","slug":"about-jealousy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dialogaryconstruir.com\/en\/about-jealousy\/","title":{"rendered":"What I learned about jealousy in my counseling"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Jealousy - a feeling we all know but are reluctant to admit<\/strong><\/h2>\n

This emotional state can put relationships to a test and, depending on how it is acted out, can also become very toxic. At the same time, jealousy is a human emotion that should not be condemned, but understood and dealt with. Jealousy is the fear of being abandoned or losing an important person to a third party. Insecurity plays a major role in this, because we believe we will be left because we ourselves are missing something. In my counseling, I have learned a lot about dealing with jealousy and would like to share some of my insights.<\/p>\n

Jealousy: a universal feeling<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Each of us may have experienced this nagging feeling of insecurity and anxiety. It can come in different forms: in a romantic relationship, between siblings, among friends or even at work. Jealousy itself is not the problem; it's how we deal with it that makes the difference.<\/p>\n

The difficult side of jealousy<\/strong><\/h3>\n

When jealousy gets out of control, it usually leads to mistrust, reproach and a constant need for control on the part of the jealous person. He or she cannot think of anything else. The fear of being left for someone else means that the partner has to constantly give explanations and evidence to calm the jealousy. This means that the other person has to take care of their partner's jealousy. However, it\u00b4s only calmed for as long as reassurance is given. This is usually a bottomless pit, because the jealous person's insecurity remains in the background.<\/p>\n

Taking responsibility<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Ein entscheidender Aspekt im Umgang mit Eifersucht ist Eigenverantwortung. Wer mit Eifersucht k\u00e4mpft, muss erkennen, dass dieses Gef\u00fchl in ihm selbst entsteht und nicht von au\u00dfen auf ihn zukommt. Auch wenn der Partner vermeintlichen Grund zur Eifersucht gibt<\/a>, ist der Weg der Kontrolle nie die L\u00f6sung. Warum sollten wir mit jemandem zusammen sein, den wir kontrollieren m\u00fcssen? Kontrolle gibt uns nur so lange Ruhe, wie wir sie aus\u00fcben, was wiederum dazu f\u00fchrt, dass der Partner st\u00e4ndig unter Kontrolle steht. Es kommt also in erster Linie auf die eigene Entscheidung an, sich nicht von Eifersucht kontrollieren zu lassen.<\/p>\n

Communication without reproach<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Es ist vollkommen in Ordnung, \u00fcber die eigenen Gef\u00fchle zu sprechen, einschlie\u00dflich der Eifersucht. Wichtig ist jedoch, dies ohne Vorw\u00fcrfe und Anschuldigungen<\/a> zu tun. Ein offenes Gespr\u00e4ch, in dem man seine \u00c4ngste und Unsicherheiten teilt, kann Wunder wirken. Es sollte niemals erwartet werden, dass der Partner sein Verhalten \u00e4ndert, nur um das Gef\u00fchl der Eifersucht zu lindern. Stattdessen sollte der Fokus darauf liegen, gemeinsam L\u00f6sungen zu finden und Verst\u00e4ndnis aufzubauen.<\/p>\n

Compassion and new solutions<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Jealousy also leads to controlling behavior because we don't know any alternatives at first.<\/p>\n

The fact that someone takes responsibility for their jealousy does not mean that they have to learn how to deal with it on their own. In my counseling, it is particularly important to me not to condemn jealousy, but to get to know it. This includes:<\/p>\n

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  1. Understand yourself better and find out where the jealousy comes from.<\/li>\n
  2. Strengthen one's own self-esteem and invalidate limiting beliefs about oneself.<\/li>\n
  3. Recognize which healthy points you can hold on to in order to trust your partner.<\/li>\n
  4. Have open and honest conversations without accusing the other person.<\/li>\n
  5. Draw clear boundaries and respect them.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Jealousy is not an incurable disease<\/strong><\/h3>\n

    Jealousy is a complex and often misunderstood emotion. You cannot condemn yourself or your partner for being jealous. However, you can take responsibility and learn to deal with it. Jealousy may occur from time to time. However, once you have found the right strategies to deal with it, it is no longer such a burden.<\/p>\n

    If you are struggling with jealousy in your relationship in any way, it can help to talk about it and seek professional counseling to get clarity.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    Eifersucht \u2013 ein Gef\u00fchl, das wir alle kennen, aber nur ungern zugeben Dieser emotionale Zustand kann Beziehungen auf eine harte Probe stellen und, je nachdem, wie er ausgelebt wird, auch sehr toxisch werden. Gleichzeitig ist Eifersucht ein menschliches Gef\u00fchl, das nicht verurteilt, sondern verstanden und bew\u00e4ltigt werden sollte. Eifersucht ist die Angst, verlassen zu werden, […]<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":835,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-827","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"yoast_head":"\nWas ich in meiner Beratung \u00fcber Eifersucht gelernt habe - Dorothee von St\u00f6sser<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Wer schonmal Eifersucht erlebt hat weis wie unangenehm es sein kann. 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